Discover The 4 Things Holding You Back From Achieving Your Goals
Wondering why achieving your goals is so difficult? Our actions determine our results. There are some things we do that hinder the achievement of our goals. Here, I will show you 4 things that might be holding you back from your goals without you knowing. And some solutions to help you.
1.The fear of failure
Many of us have experienced failure one time or the other. It is demoralizing and we feel like we just wasted our time and energy.
The fear of failure is when we allow that fear to stop us from doing the things that move us forward towards our goals. So many things can cause it. for example, I want to write a blog post, but I remembered that I didn’t get a good mark in my essays in school. That event made me afraid to write because I thought my writing is not good enough. That was what I believed in.
People are afraid to try because they believe that their efforts are going to lead to failure. That’s not true unless you believe it.
But when we look beyond that and learn what we did that lead to failure. We can use that knowledge to be smarter with our actions and develop the knowledge to overcome that failure when it arises again.
Setting a goal and reaching it is not going to be a straight and easy path. There are going to be failures along the way. So don’t let those failures discourage you and keep you from achieving your goals, but let them serve as a lesson and boost towards achieving your goals.
Failure is just part of the process to success. If you don’t try you wouldn’t reach your goals.
To do – Look into your life and think about how your thoughts of failure have prevented you from taking action towards your goal(which is the next point).
The solution to fear of failure
Visualize your obstacles and think positively – Positive thinking alone is not enough. Research has shown that the best outcomes are created when we balance positive thinking with visualizing the future obstacles and struggles we will encounter. Visualize problems or obstacles that may arise and plan solutions and how you will act if those problems were true. See yourself successful in those obstacles.
2. Not taking action
Some of us complain about not reaching our goal when the main problem is the lack of action. The truth is, you’re not taking action. Your goals are set for you to take action to reach and achieve them. Without doing anything, you’re just not moving.
Note: There’s are differences between taking action and taking action in the right direction. You need to have full clarity of your goal and the steps you need to take to achieve them and take consistent action towards it.
If your goal is to drink more water a day, putting an empty bottle by your side isn’t going to cut it. You are doing something, but you’re not doing the right thing.
The classic overthinking definition is, “to think about something too much or for too long.”. While it is humann nature to think before taking action or making a decision, overthinking stunts your growth when you can’t get out of it.
Replaying all those options in your head won’t get you anywhere. You’re afraid to take decisions. so you take no action at all. But making the wrong decision is better than not making no-decision.
Why do I overthink? Overthinking is a byproduct of anxiety or uncertainty. These problems can often be addressed by changing your thoughts and mindset
The solution to not taking action.
Ask yourself the right questions – Why don’t I take the action towards my goals. Why do I overthink my actions? Asking the right questions will reveal the real problems and make your focus on solutions to that problem. Your energy will be directed towards the right direction and you will get results
3. Distraction from others success
Successful people don’t compare themselves with others. They don’t envy others’ success, instead, they get motivation and knowledge from other successful people.
One thing that holds you back from achieving your goal is when you are distracted by others success and wonder “How did they do it?”, “Can I reach the level they are?”.
In life, everyone must follow their own path. That’s one of the principles of success. If you get distracted by others’ success your attention and focus will shift from your goals and success to other things. You won’t be giving your all.
Solution to distraction from others success
Highly focused people consider the achievement of others to determine what they need to do to replicate similar success. This ensures they are sufficiently motivated and energized to keep pressing towards their goals and dreams.
Focus on your own path and walk along that path. It will be easier to acheive your goals.
4. You don’t have a strong why.
A strong why is the fuel that pushes and motivates you to accomplish and reach your goals. Without a strong why you will lose your driving force to reach your goals.
Many people spend a lot of time planning out their goals and how to accomplish them but they forget a very essential piece of the puzzle. You need to find a strong and deep reason to accomplish your goals. It is the key to staying focused and motivated
Now you know the importance of a why statement, but what exactly is it.
Your why statement is completely unique to you. Its main purpose is to drive you toward achieving your goals. You must craft it to give you a sense of direction towards achieving your goals. It could be the result, contribution, or impact you want to make beyond yourself. It could be your purpose in life.
Now, what is your why statement? Why should you or anyone care about your goals? What inspires you to take action? could be your family or your purpose or to serve others but it must be meaningful to you.
Your why statement should be
- simple and clear
- be deep and resonate with you
- inspire you to take action
- expressed in affirmative language and inspire you
Now that you are aware of some of the key things holding you back from achieving your goals, I expect that you will make conscious effort to prevent and avoid them.
- Get rid of the fear of failure
- Make sure you take action
- Don’t get distracted by the success of others
- Have a strong why